Mindset: The Story We Tell Ourselves


MomentumI am not a morning person.

I have so much to do today.

Parents are crazy lunatics in car line.

Exercising is really hard.

All of these things are true but they are not the story I want to tell. We are in charge of our story. The first person to hear our story is ourselves. Of course I am not going to have a good day if I begin every morning telling myself how much I hate mornings. Instead of focusing on how much I have to do today, I need to reframe my story to focus on how much I am going to get done today. Car line is truly full of lunatics but the drive to school is such a sweet time with Lucas. Exercising is really hard but what else can I do that gives me so much time to myself without feeling guilty…. AND my pants fit better when I exercise. How different my story becomes when I reframe my thoughts.

There are 4 main parts to MINDSET. Let’s talk about the first one today.


Because God chose to make me a boy mom, I have to do things that are not in my comfort zone. Things like camping and outdoor activities are not my cup of tea. However, I know it is important. Last year, Larry and I took two of the three monsters to Colorado for a vacation before a work conference I had in Denver. Everyone wanted to snow ski. Me… not so much. My compromise was snow tubing. I did a lot of reading and research and it seemed fun but much safer. I wasn’t excited about doing it myself but the boys insisted.

As a Florida girl, I am clueless about winter clothing. I bought us all snow shoes, snow overalls and very large puffy jackets. We looked like the Michelin Man’s family. I was especially hideous in a very bright pink coat with a fluffy ruffle around my hinder parts. I had so many layers on that I couldn’t put my arms down. They just kind of stuck out at an angle. The worst part was that it was a beautiful day in Colorado and many folks were just in light jackets and jeans.

After purchasing our tickets, we rode the lift to the top and the boys jumped into their tube and flew down the mountain. I was very anxious. I was stressed out that Lucas was already ahead of me on the trail. I was concerned that they had not given us any directions on steering the tubes (FYI.. you can’t steer them!) and we didn’t have a plan for meeting up at the bottom of the mountain. What was I thinking???? I started backing up and shaking my head. However, I was next in line. They made me sit down in the tube and even with me yelling “no, no, no” they (Larry) pushed me off the edge and down I flew. My “no, no, no” screams became “Yesssssss!” as I felt the exhilaration of the moment. The momentum carried me all the way down to the bottom of the mountain. What a great experience. Skiing is definitely going to be my next adventure.

Here are some things to remember about a Mindset of Momentum:

  1. Our emotions follow our actions. Don’t let your fear or worries lead. Jump into the tube and go! Once you are flying down the mountain, your emotions catch up.
  2. Once you get moving things happen. I couldn’t believe how much happened just because I made one movement on the top of the mountain. A mindset of momentum does that for us. One small decision sets off many other wins in our lives.
  3. There may be “no” moments every time. I went down the mountain 25 times or so that day. I had a “no” moment every time I was at the top. However, the story I kept repeating in my head was that I had done it before and it was fun. Don’t be surprised at the “no” moments but don’t give in. Tell yourself the story you want to be true.

I was recently on a call with a well-known person who was giving me some life coaching. My biggest take-away from our conversation was that I needed to go ahead and take action. He asked me what my plan was and made sure I had thought it through and then recommended that I just go for it. His experience was that there are many things that you can’t figure out or deal with until you are moving in a direction. It takes momentum.

Average lives can accidentally happen. Greatness takes a purposeful mindset. If you want to accomplish great things, be intentional about the story you tell yourself. You are the writer. Tell a great story and jump in the tube today and get some momentum going. You will be amazed at how great the ride will be!

Philippians 4:8

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.